Time is a great healer,
the wise ones say.
Then, why do I suffer the ravages of time each day?
At time i feel i am too weak, at times i feel like I am a pretty strong person . Still at times i feel so misrable .This wasn't always the case and while I feel this way most of the time, sometimes I allow myself to get down on myself and give into being weak. I think it is normal.
I also feel like I am fairly thick skinned, meaning I don't take things to heart when people talk bad about me or tell me I am wrong. Heck I know I am not perfect and I know what areas I could improve on. If I was perfect, I wouldn't be human and I wouldn't be me. But at times i do feel Bad too.......
However, once I open my heart to you, be it family or friend, I get a very thin skin and can be hurt by you. I think this is also a normal part of being human. We have emotions and I don't think as a whole we were meant to be reclusive. I realize there are exceptations to ever rule but my point is we seek out people to be around and have in our life, and therefore we can open ourselves to being hurt......to being judged,being questioned......
Not sure where I was going with this.... Hmmm... Let's change direction a bit... I am trying to explain my recent delima a bit but it is very scrambled up.
I just feel like my life is spinning around me right now and I do not feel like fixing it at the moment. I might whine a bit or complain, heck I might even cry or worse get sick from it. But I know it is a moment in time and I know that I will get back to me. I call these times my depression moments. I am down in this hole, just looking up and watching, waiting for the skies to clear. I can only focus on one area in my life at a time when I am like this. It has to be work most of the time or else I can't support the family.
The house is the first thing that takes a back seat. Gosh I want my house clean but if I just hide in the hole for a bit, I can't see it. I am not a great housekeeper, never have been. I see sofa set full of things. I see the toys,glasses and the trash and the laundry.My bed which remains messy....till next night
At times i just want to pay someone else to do it who either 1. is good at it and/or 2. does a good job for me for this time.I don't care which just so long as I have a clean house and I am not the one doing it....
Cooking is not fun for me anymore either.... heck it was so much fun before, I used to enjoy it and I used to have pride in it, but I also worked a lot fewer hours and had people that actually appreciated my efforts. I do eat "bad" several times a week but for the most part, I do okay. I try to eat several veggies and some fruit in a day. I try to balance my carb intact and my proteins. I drink a lot of water. food day).... But truly I know what to eat, how to eat and how much. I know why I am overweight. Just right now, in this hole, it is not a priority.
I have some typical mommy guilt as well....i delievered a baby and unable to raise him the way i always wanted...
always wanted to be a gud wife and a nice mom...but then what have i done, just sent him apart..... that causes me to reduce groundings and reward even when there is nothing to reward. I get it. But overall, I have good kid and he do know when to stop pushing back and just pick up.....
That is just a few of the things weighing heavy on my mind.... and it isn't even the big, huge elephant in the room problem that I can't seem to deal with. These are the fixable things at least. My big elephant is not at the moment fixable. Well really it is but I feel like I am in a lose-lose situation and the clock is ticking. And this is the one that keeps me hiding in this hole. This is one that if I decide to fix, it will get me out of the hole but do I want to?
I told myself several years ago that if I was ever unhappy with something in my life I would fix it. Be it a job, a relationship, myself, the house.... It didn't matter, I would take control and fix it. I vowed that life was too short to live it unhappy, yet what if the thing that brings you the most joy is also the thing destroying you day after day, week after week.... Then what?
So you see why I live with an elephant.
I don't want anyone reading into this what they think my problem might be that needs fixing. You could guess and guess, and you would be wrong.... and heck even if it were true, am I ready to admit it? No, not yet.
I don't really want someone to fix it for me either. Or I Do......i just want someone to hold me tight and assure me that he is there i am not alone, just love me for who i am how i am.....but...............I have to solve this problem. It is my problem.
The windmills of the Gods grind slow
but they grind for sure.
Yeah! And I am still waiting!
It took me eight years to fix my last elephant sized problem and before that it was also years. I am a patient person but I also believe in taking risks. So just like I knew it was time to move back to somewhere else, end my all nighmares, quit a job I didn't like.... I will wait until I feel I am ready and only then can I walk away thinking, "No regrets! and What a ride!"
Nothing lasts forever.
I have heard that for long…..
Its time.
To do away with clichés.
Face ground realities.
Oops! Now that’s a true cliché!!
