But for me it's through circumstance rather than choice.
People often ask me, do you love or loathe living alone? Do you relish
the freedom that comes from being able to do what you want, when you want, or
would you prefer to be living with others?
I always say one of the best things about living with significant other
in my opinion is having someone to greet you when you get home and
someone to talk about your day with and its hard when you come home to empty
house. I simply love doing things together around the house, to
spend most evenings and weekends together. It is the simple things like sharing
the cooking, doing dishes together, talking about your day at work, laundry, News, politics, spiritual discussions, sports, movies, kids, and working together around the garden/home. Each of
us has our strengths and preferences as to what we like doing so it makes for a
great team together rather being alone. Someone just to say I am right here, fully present with you in this moment.
Some people say it’s easy in today’s world,
about having online friends / social networking site and all technology related
interactions, But no one realises that personal human touch has its own
charm and no matter how long you spent on texting, to and fro or emailing
each other still it doesn't give you any kind of satisfaction which
comes with human touch human interaction is real time looking at
each other in the eyes and discussing things sharing about the life in general ,happiness
sadness, love but technology
seems to be subtly destroying the meaningfulness of interactions we have with
others, disconnecting us emotionally and from the world around us, and
leading to an imminent sense of isolation and aloneness....
One thing I learned is that technology is not enough
when it comes to communication. There is a need for physical and non-verbal
communication also. A simple touch or hug becomes extremely important. I
now know what it must be like for many who live alone through no choice of
their own. I feel for those who find themselves alone through death -
particularly our seniors. I can really feel for all the people out there
who are going through this technology interactions with kids and grandkids but
just can't feel them anymore. Kids feel they have done their bit by texting or
emailing...but all they need is you and personal interaction with you, that ear-splitting
grin and smiling eyes, face to face interaction that comfort us
and provide us with some important sense of well-being..that's what
exactly is missing in our life. Some nights when I rest my head on
my pillow, I think to myself how nice it would be if that pillow were
instead a human chest. And some days, when I see couples roaming the streets
holding hands so tightly as if they could never let go, I feel a twinge of
sadness. I just want to spend more time together with our friends, family,
significant others and to make the relationships that count last, and not just completely rely
on technology.
Look at me.... I have no one to discuss what thoughts
I am going through or why I got these kinds of thoughts in the first place....
if I had someone to talk about it or discuss it, I may not be posting it
here......When we were kid's there used to a question for easy writing
" Technology is boon or curse"....I am still trying to figure that
out I don't know what I had written back then ... but after so many years my
mind is still debating that subject, on which I must have written when I had no
clue what am I writing and why am I writing... may be just to score marks....:)But
now it’s different.
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