Cheating

All these years I have been angry somewhere...lots of emotional thought process I have been going through at various moments... Somewhere there was a thought lying somewhere that I should have tried one more time, though i was deeply hurt.. I have been telling myself i am not the one who made the decision to break commitment to my partner and cheat. I have nothing to do with my partner making the immature, inappropriate, self-destructive choice to turn away from me to someone else. What if you have children then think of the children, your children will suffer. You are turning their lives upside down, fracturing their family unit and destroying their peace and harmony. Do they think "What right do I have to break his/her family unit in which innocent children are growing every day, just to feed my need?" Do they??? They don’t becoz there need is bigger than anything else, be it there own kid.... But Deep Down somewhere i was bothered abt my Kid, I wanted to do and try all sorts of things...Be it patching up with his DAD...to give him a complete life...but it didn’t worked out and in turn I was more than hurt. It like the person you trusted to honour you in this relationship has betrayed you. They let you down, embarrassed you, and hurt you to your core. All I was hoping then and now that one should Accept responsibility. You should have the decency to tell your partner in all honesty and candor that you own your choices. You're the one who ran this relationship off in the ditch. This had nothing to do with your partner. But you're going to continue to victimize everybody, because you're controlled by your impulses rather than your values. When it all started, you have been with your significant other and everything seems to be going well for most part. you have your good times and not so good times and you have your rough moments. But still you just stand there with a hope that relationship will progress as planned and hope for..... Somewhere being in that relationship you can sense the unpleasant things, still u keep ignoring that sense, insecurity..or maybe you feel its just an hunch. Then the day comes when you find out that you were cheated, previously you just had clues but now it’s all official. You saw it coming but never believed. You were in denial...or extra hopeful that things will get better...just trying to give that space. But suddenly your castle came down..you are devastated and broken..you never want to accept the fact. But either way the fact remains. You have loved someone always taken that extra mile...but they have been unfaithful. What can you do about it now? Can you recover from such a blow? Can you really get back into a relationship with them and expect that it can be a good and healthy relationship? Is forgiving them possible when they have done something as bad as cheating? They say the chance of a successful relationship born of infidelity is not even one in 100.